10 unhealthy dating patterns and how to break them
While this makes for good entertainment, it isn’t real life.
Most of the love stories we see in pop culture are rooted in infatuation…not real love.
And if things ever go wrong in love, it’s only because of one simple issue. [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility and communication] But as simple as the thought of communicating openly may seem, it’s also the hardest thing to do, especially when egos clash or when you assume your lover will judge you for your opinions.
When you can truly understand what you feel inside, when you learn to communicate how you feel with your lover, and both of you play an active part in understanding and supporting each other, your love life will bloom and withstand the test of time effortlessly.
"There could be a familiar blueprint from your childhood," says Sherman.
But other than a lucky few, most couples lose their way along marital or relationship bliss and end up taking the unhealthy path towards bad romance.
[Read: 12 tips to be a happy couple that’s envied by other couples] It’s quite sad really, because as lovers, your partner and you do try to make the relationship work.
The passenger thinks that the way to get the relationship they want is to become the driver or make the driver less powerful or to get the driver to let them share the ‘wheel’. Love is not about having power over people, nor is it about giving over your personal power like some sort of shady dowry in exchange for the love, validation and identity that you need, nor is it about having a relationship on ‘your terms’.
If you were in a truly mutually respectful relationship where you are both in reality, you’d have both gone through the discovery phase of dating, moved on into a relationship and organically come together to work on your relationship and the direction.