Job hunting is like dating
By Hannah Morgan Job Search and dating both conjure up feelings of discomfort. Here are 15 of the basic rules of dating and how they apply to job search: Know what you are looking for. Don't talk about a job too early in the process of networking, that is like talking about what you want to name your children on the first date. Another reminder: turn your cell phone off before the date/meeting/interview.
And yet, they are the necessary evils that you have to endure to achieve the desired outcomes.
And when you get nervous, you act weird and people don’t see the Real You Underneath All That Sweating.
Which is exactly the same as the job application process.
A close friend’s mantra is: “Run at the wall until the wall goes for a drink with you” and he swears by the results. It’s time to start acting like you fancy your job, until it agree to be your job. What’s the first thing you do when you fall desperately in love with someone? Maybe get rid of that tweet about how you spent Friday night cleaning your oven, too.
He wears his target down until they eventually – as his current girlfriend did – say “Yeah OK let’s give it a go then”. This works perfectly for your jobhunt, provided the “target” isn’t a specific company, but an entry-level position in the career you dream about. That hot girl has loads of people after her, so it’s all too easy for you to dissolve in a pool of “why would she pick me” before backing off, but think about it – she’s going to date someone eventually. Stalk the crap out of them on social media, then stalk yourself so you can see what THEY see when they look at your page. And the OKCupid Profile where you talk about “Wanting to get down with all the ladiez” because nobody should spell “ladies” with a “z”. Desperately try and piece together their enigmatically attractive personality via everything you can get your love-fuelled mitts on.
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Did someone sweep you off your feet even though you may not have been looking?
Regardless of the reason, there's one thing that's certain: infidelity is devastating. "In many cases, it forces issues to the surface of a relationship that would have never otherwise been dealt with," says Kevin Hansen, author of RELATED: 10 Surprising Traits Men Who Cheat Have in Common "From the day I married my husband, I knew it was a mistake," says 50-year-old Elizabeth Smith.* "He was abusive, controlling and expected me to quit my job to make a home for him." A little over a year into the marriage, she began having an affair with a man that she worked with.
"I had no illusions that I was in love, but it was eye-opening to be with someone that made me feel good about myself, made me laugh and respected me for who I was—not who he wanted me to be," she says.
And, although we can’t promise you writing a cover letter that begins with, “Hi, I’m Joe. You only have a short window of time to impress your potential employer, you need to be able to show them you are worthy of a second date – er, interview.
Funny enough, dating and job searching are pretty similar in their nature. If you see photos on the wall, things in their office, and so on, ask about them.